I am getting a
divorce! What’s next?
For
adults, divorce remains one of life’s most stressful events. Death of a loved one, dismissal from work,
an illness, or marital problems certainly challenge the strongest of
characters. Unfortunately, divorce is a very real part of
our life. According to United States
Bureau of Labor Statistics, 45.7 percent of all marriages end in divorce for
people between the ages of 15 and 46 with an educational attainment of an
associate’s degree. This was a study
that spanned the period of 1978-2010.
Latest reports suggest that this figure is on a rise, perhaps in part,
due to an evolution of our social norms, shifting marital roles, and increasingly
gender equal job market.
As a
licensed Family Law attorney in the State of Illinois and a court-certified
divorce mediator, my best advice to clients is to never compound a bad marriage
with a bad divorce.
It is
important to note that the State of Illinois is a no-fault state, which means
that marital misconduct on the part of misbehaving spouse has no effect on the
disposition of the wealth of the marital estate. In other words, your cheating spouse may
still be awarded a favorable share of the marital home or the accumulated bank
account's balance. The days of bringing your priest and your
neighbors to court to testify as to who caused the breakdown of the marriage,
while persuading a jury of your peers are long gone. There
is no need to testify regarding the origin of certain foreign undergarments
located by an aggrieved wife. These days, the court views divorce as a
dissolution of a business partnership.
Assets must be divided, debts allocated, and if there are children,
custody and child support need to be addressed.
From my
perspective as a divorce attorney, spouses typically do not contest the actual
dissolution of marriage as the divorce is inevitable. Divorcing spouses simply disagree as to the
finances and custody matters. This
brings us to three categories of divorce: “hotly” contested, “mildly”
contested, and uncontested (full agreement).
First,
spouse should begin to start thinking regarding which basket their divorce
falls into before ever stepping into my law office.
In the
event a client suspects that there will be no agreement because of one spouse
having a history of secreting income or assets, or if there are serious child
endangerment or abuse issues, or there simply is a profound difference of
factual opinion relating to the finances or custody, the best route is to file
divorce papers in court, and proceed through the litigation stage. At this stage, any issues of disagreement
will be decided by a judge. Attempting
to negotiate or mediate (more on that later) would be futile. This process, differs from each state, but
here in Illinois, a common contested divorce consumes approximately 12-18
months. Of course, every case is
different. Plenty of moving variables
determine the length of the case, i.e. quality of lawyers, unreasonableness of your spouse, type of judge,
scheduling, and complexity of issues.
In the
event a case is “mildly” contested, two major options are available. First, a spouse retains a lawyer and proceeds
with a less litigious zest. Negotiation is done “behind the scenes” without
ever having the need to conduct a hearing before a judge. For an example, if the marital estate and
finances can be quickly identified by attorneys, or the dispute involves a
nominal amount in comparison to the potential attorney’s fees being expended in
litigation (cost/benefit analysis), it is prudent to resolve all remaining issues
in a more private setting than a courtroom. Negotiation is usually channeled through
attorneys. Naturally, if the marital estate
is rather sizeable or income of the party’s is substantial, a divorcing spouse
should retain an attorney.
Another
option is to proceed through mediation. Unlike
an attorney negotiating through the comforts of his office chair, mediation is
a process where two spouses meet face-to-face in an effort to resolve points of
disagreement via discussion through the assistance of a third-party neutral
mediator, who neither acts as a judge nor as an attorney representing either
party’s interest. Mediator is essentially a facilitator and never advocates for either side. Mediation is a wonderful instrument because
of its numerous benefits and advantages.
It is far less expensive than litigation, and typically consumes less
time. Mediation also offers the parties
an opportunity to control their fate. Judges,
above else, like everyone, make mistakes.
Mediation also offers the spouse
to openly air their grievances, oftentimes serving as closure and peace of
mind.
A good
example of this “behind the scenes” hybrid of mediation and negotiation is
Michael Jordan’s divorce from Juanita Jordan, his then-wife of 17 years, in
2006. As a caveat, I did not participate
in this case. The Jordans’ divorce was
finalized with little media frenzy because the case never saw the light of the
day in the courtroom. Ms. Jordan was
able to walk away from the marriage with huge savings on attorney’s fees, her
dignity intact, and a cool $168 million settlement, as widely reported. More recently, similar scenario is unfolding
with Bruce and Kris Jenner of the reality television show, “Keeping up with the
Kardashians.” Many readers surely will
be shocked. Yes, the Jenners are
divorcing! If those two kids can’t make
it, who can? As entertaining it might
be, do not expect a legal battle, because a full and complete agreement
purportedly has been finalized between the parties, most certainly through the
assistance of counsel and financial advisors.
Last by
not least, a scenario with a full agreement reached at the kitchen table is
obviously the most preferred and ideal method. It is most common when the parties have a
modest marital estate, marriage is rather short, and there are no
children. In the event of a full
agreement, a lawyer may simply act as a scrivener memorializing the terms of
the agreement.
Every
option is entirely dependent on the needs of the client. Persons contemplating a divorce should
consult with their trusted counsel to see which option is the right one for
them.
Gregory Gancarczyk is an Illinois licensed attorney concentrating in all aspects of Family Law.
Mr.
Gancarczyk, is a principal in his firm, Gan Law Group (www.ganlawgrup.com). In 2013
and 2014, he was named by Super Lawyers Magazine as a Rising Star in the area
of Family Law, a designation reserved for the top 2.5% of all Illinois
attorneys under 40.